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Being grateful - 20120331

I am grateful for second-borns.

Today, our second-born, W, was born. He arrived after 13 minutes of pushing, and around 12 hours of labour.  The entire experience of birthing this child was familiar but also unknown territory. I'll save much of this for my delivery post (whenever that gets written!), but it was a completely amazing experience. We were #17 of 17 births delivered that day (or actually that began yesterday), and our nurses were happy that we got this baby delivered 17 minutes before their shifts ended. We were also happy that we got the chance to introduce him to one of our nurses, who we got a chance to talk to about our love for running. We're hoping we'll get to see each other in one of this year's later races.

Our second-born has already taught us so much, more than he'll ever really understand. There is so much we've learned from him about life, faith, marriage and above all, love. There's so much he'll teach his big brother and so much he'll teach his younger sibling(s) too.

Today, the world is a better place because of people like our W, born today. The sun got a little bit brighter, colours got even more vivid, and life is sweeter.

Thank you, thank you, thank you, W.

Being grateful - 20120330

I am grateful for pain tolerance/experience and cheery nurses.

Today I am in labour. It's crazy. This is actually happening. I was scheduled for an induction today, but with  how busy it is in the Labour and Delivery unit, it looks like this baby isn't coming out today. Maybe like his brother, he'll be born in the wee hours of tomorrow. That's fine with us.

I've been sitting for the majority of the day and the pain I feel is mostly on my butt...from sitting for HOURS. Yes, I have contractions, but they're not so much painful as uncomfortable. Mr.S is liking that I'm cruising through them instead of getting frustrated with him to touch me or not touch me. Haha! I think because I know what to expect in terms of the pain, I'm okay. It's not at its worst, or at least not at the worst it was last time, so this is okay.

The nurse in the assessment area is amazing. She's one of those people who seems to be doing exactly what is her calling. Imagine being good at calming 10+ pregnant women in labour or about to be in labour or about to undergo a c-section. She gets a prize, seriously. And the unit is so busy, she's the only one in here.

See you tomorrow, when I'm officially a mother of two!

Being grateful - 20120329

I am grateful for networking, free food, and ultrasounds.

It was one of my last days of work before mat leave and I spent it in training today. I know, strange, but you know, it was okay. It was nice to spend it with many of the people I work with, some of whom I've been emailing all year and never met. It was a good networking opportunity, and I was asked to join a team of people (when I come back) who would work towards advancing our roles in the organization. I was flattered and agreed that I'd be a part of it next April, upon my return. Also, it helped that we got free food, something we don't get often in the public sector.

I had to leave training early, though, for an ultrasound. Baby S II is doing well and they even said that I could last until Monday. Like that's happening.

Update to come!

Being grateful - 20120328

I am grateful for burgers and babies and baked goods.

I met up with one of our BFFs today for lunch after my regular doctor appointment. We work in buildings pretty much right beside each other and haven't had lunch together in a while, so it was just time to meet up, and also we needed to have one more lunch before I went on mat leave. We went for burgers at Hero Burger and talked about all sorts of stuff, catching up on what we've been up to. When I went on mat leave last time, we also met up for burgers. It was just really nice to hang out and talk over lunch. And, of course, I didn't leave lunch without a big stain on my belly. Thanks, mustard.

I also baked some cheesecupcakes for my colleagues. With me going away for a year, I figured that it'd be nice to leave them with a treat, and also thank them for the shower they threw me. Also, a bunch of them have been asking me when I'd be making my cupcakes since the last time (they were slightly disappointed when, at our last pot luck, I brought in snowflake decorated sugar cookies -- impressed but disappointed they weren't my cupcakes. Also, I'm missing our next pot luck, which is on Monday). So I left some on our floor and the floor below us (we're spread out over two floors) and ended up being swarmed. I heard that the ones on the floor below were gone in 2 seconds after I sent out an email saying that they were there. I didn't even get to try one -- they were white chocolate brownie crusted cheesecake cupcakes with raspberry cream cheese frosting. Dang, that sounds good. Luckily, the dozen that I set aside for Mr.S to bring to work weren't all needed (he brought in just a few for his team), so we were able to try the rest at home. I mean this in the most modest way -- they were amazing.

Being grateful - 20120327

I am grateful for chicken wings and instant test results.

The last few weeks have been pretty hectic and tiring for us. Mr.S has been studying for an exam for one of the courses he's taking and it has required us to manage our time and energy differently, i.e. time and energy we don't have, or at least that I don't have. It's been quite challenging...until today.

The exam was this morning, and Mr.S did very well. The good thing about this exam was that his pass/fail result was given once he was done (PASS!), so there wasn't any anxiety or worry between the end of the exam and waiting for a mark.

We met up for lunch, wings, to celebrate his passing the exam, to celebrate going back to our usual time and energy assignments (i.e. me going back to passing out every opportunity I get because I'm so frickin' tired these days!), and to celebrate, er, WINGS!

Congrats, Mr.S! Until the next exam!

Being grateful - 20120326

I am grateful for work friends and baby showers.

I can't remember if I posted about this, but I found out that my work friends were planning a shower for me. As a member of the administrative staff in the organization, I have access to several people's calendars, all of whom were invited to the shower. And so, when they got the invitation, so did I. I pretended that I didn't get those notifications and deleted them when I saw them to minimize the amount of information I had about the "surprise". Later, my colleague who was planning it apologized for the spoiled surprise and we laughed about it, after I told her I was just going to pretend I didn't know. I was certainly not expecting anything, especially with this being my second child, so I told her and my team that I was totally flattered and touched that they were planning something for me and the baby.

And today was that day. We giggled about how I should react since everyone outside my team didn't know I knew about it. It was nice to have so many of the people I work with in one room, all of whom have become my friends, and coming from different levels in the organization. We played a few games and ate some treats, something we always welcome.

And, it was nice to introduce everyone to my mat leave replacement, who, BONUS! also bakes. Everyone was relieved to have someone who could still contribute baked goods to our pot lucks in my absence.

Being grateful - 20120325

I am grateful for family celebrations and dog kisses.

Today is our cousin's birthday -- we spent a good chunk of the day at their house with family, both her/our side and her in-laws. It was really nice to see so much family and friends together all in honour of one person's birthday. And speaking of family, this included their Chocolate Lab, a member of the family and just one of our kids' canine cousins (there are a growing number of dogs in our family). He's really the only big dog D-nut has met (although they met when he was still a tiny puppy) and so even though he loves dogs, he seems a little intimidated by his size at first. But he's one of those big dogs who's so sweet. And we're always reminded of this by his big whole-face kisses. D-nut's always thrown off by those! We always have to remind him that that's how dogs kiss.

Being grateful - 20120324

I am grateful for authentic restaurants.

Living in Toronto, one of the most multi-cultural cities in the world, we've been spoiled with international cuisine. Unfortunately, much of it has been "North Americanized" and so it's easy to mistake what we're eating for "authentic".

We went to a Korean restaurant tonight for one of our BFF's birthday. It was REALLY good. We all ate so much that we all had to fight not to pass out at the end of the meal...which was also the end of the night. We ate until we closed the restaurant, something that is not new to us.

Try out Song Cooks.

Being grateful - 20120323

I am grateful for 2nd chances and days off.

Today we attempted to use our Groupon for Magenta Studios. I say attempted because well, D-nut was under the weather and being very grumpy and uncooperative. We got a few shots, but most of them were solos of me  (and belly), which were only taken to show him what we were doing there. After the allotted time slot for our session came to a close, the photographer let us know that we could always come back for another session, for free, a service they have for occasions just like this. Thank goodness. We didn't have any shots of just D-nut and belly, but we did get a few family shots, which weren't bad.

So yes, we had today off. It's my last day off before my mat leave/vacation starts and with us having the car, we decided to drop by my work so I could bring some stuff home from my desk. God knows I wasn't carrying all that stuff home on the subway. So, we made our way downtown and I introduced my office friends to my family. It was nice to bring those two worlds together.

Being grateful - 20120322

I am grateful for PVRs.

We've been staying overnight at my parents' house while they are on a pilgrimage. Something to note about my Dad - he lurves (yes, loves that much) his TV. Not literally the TV itself, he just loves everything about TV -- hi-def TV, DVDs, satellites, etc (although surprisingly, he doesn't own a Blu-Ray player...yet...I think it's because he's burned so many DVDs, he doesn't want to have burned them for nothing). He recently discovered On-Demand with Bell's Fibe TV. He loves it. He also PVRs everything. Watching D-nut twice a week, he PVRs D's current favourite TV show, Toopy & Binoo (WHY?!?!?!) at least twice a day. While trying to get D-nut to stay in one place (the boy roams that house like he's never been there before and has no manners), we tried to find something he could watch and found that my Dad had episodes and episodes recorded and more to come every day.

So funny.

Pregnant belly touching etiquette.

(Also, I don't mind the comments on size so much, because I know that I look huge because I'm so short.)

Being grateful - 20120321

I am grateful for fish tacos.

I met up with one of my old friends I used to work with for lunch and we talked and talked and talked (and ended up taking a 2 hour lunch!) We found ourselves at Pickle Barrel, one of my favourite restaurants, and she'd never been. I had fish tacos. So good. I've never had a bad fish taco. Yum yum yum!!

Being grateful - 20120320

I am grateful for cheap stretchy shoes.

My feet are SU.WOLE. EN. That's SWOLLEN, by the way.

No, actually, it's SWOOOOOOOOOOLLENNNNNNNNN.


They blew up in recent weeks after being totally fine for months. And with me not being prepared for the beautiful weather we're having, and most of my shoes being packed away (Oh how I wish I had access to my Toms), the only shoes I can comfortably wear are running shoes. And I can't wear those to work. So, the next best thing I have that are somewhat okay for work are my black $2 Chinese slippers. They make my feet sweaty and red (the insides of the slippers are red), they don't give much support, but they don't make my feet hurt, which is nice, and a rarity these days.

Being grateful - 20120319

I am grateful for being disposable.

Today was my maternity leave replacement's first day. And in preparation for her arrival and stay, I made myself completely disposable. What is it they say about good employees? That they make themselves completely disposable, right? Or is that not what they say? Anyway, that's what I did. I really wanted to make sure that she could take over my job and they'd not need me for the year that I'm away.

Anyway, she's great. And a great addition to the team. Oh, and she bakes. Which is very important for our department pot lucks. People were starting to mourn the loss of my contributions!

Being grateful - 20120318

I am grateful for family reunions.

My sister, brother-in-law and 2 daughters live in the US (their oldest, my oldest nephew, lives in Toronto -- every time I see him, I feel like I have a tiny taste of the rest of the family). They've lived there for...gosh, I can't count how many years, and before that, they lived in Bangkok for a few years too. I think we might be at a point where they have been living away from their hometown of Toronto for more than half my life.

It goes without saying that I miss them. All the time. We don't talk as much as we like and don't travel to see each other as often as we used to, but they're always in my thoughts. Thank goodness for things like Twitter and Facebook because they at least make me feel like the distance isn't that big.

This past weekend, my sister was in Toronto on business (she's got her own business as a photographer). She was able to make it to D's party and today, we got to hang out at our sister's house. It was so nice. That's the thing about family -- you don't really need to do anything big to enjoy their company when they're in town. Personally, I enjoy sitting and hanging out and just talking when she's here, but it's hard because with this being her first/second home, she's got lots of people to see, lots of catching up to do every time she's here.

And every time she's here, especially when the whole family is here, my heart feels so full. I've always felt like each member of my family is a piece of a puzzle, and all of the time, we function with a few pieces missing or away, our mother being the very last piece, but you don't get to see most of the picture until we're all together. And that picture is so beautiful.

Being grateful - 20120317

I am grateful for birthday celebrations and helping hands.

Today was D-nut's 2nd birthday party. We decided to have the party at one of those indoor playgrounds. This was exciting because we've had one in mind since before we were married. (My cousin's daughter's birthday was at this one years ago and we really liked it compared to other places we had been to for other kids' parties, so I took a business card...)

We made sure not to do too much this year and to focus on enjoying the party with our boy. No all-nighters, nothing complicated, just something simple, but sticking with the theme. I learned that is possible without going overboard. Plus, there was a limited time for set-up and take down and we didn't want to bombard the staff and ourselves with trying to make the place our own for only 2 hours only to have it all taken down again.

The theme? Sesame Street. D-nut just might be of a very small group of people in his generation who knows what Sesame Street is, and loves it. He has such a soft spot for both Elmo (of course) and since he's discovered cookies, Cookie Monster. And what is Sesame Street like? Colourful. Here are some pictures from the day.


We loved the staff there. They really did set up everything, kept everything clean, and were very open to any specific instructions we had and encouraged us to relax and enjoy the party. I wasn't used to this, with this being our first child's birthday party in a party place. When they said they'd take care of set up, I didn't know they'd FULLY take care of it. It was so nice.

And, I  didn't know it, but this is one of the only indoor playgrounds that allows any number of adult guests. Most places allow only a certain ratio, and well, with our family and best friends, there weren't many kids. Other than D-nut's cousins and a friend's nieces, everyone was an adult. And that was fine with them. I'm sure we exposed a lot of our friends to a world they hadn't been to since they were kids themselves.

D-nut had an amazing time and we could tell there were moments where he had no idea what to do with himself -- should he go here? Should he go there? Should he play with this? Should he play with that? It was so nice to see him playing with so many toys, since most of his toys are packed away (and temporarily forgotten). It was so amazing to watch him celebrate his 2nd birthday, enjoying every minute of it (after he blew out his candles, he took a bite of his pizza and ran back to play -- we think he knew that all the other kids would be eating and he wanted the whole place to himself!).

He's such a big boy -- it's so crazy to think that he's already 2 years old. We love you D! :)

Being grateful - 20120316

I am grateful for rainbows.

With D's birthday party coming up, we decided that I'd go easy on the baking, but bake some treats for our family and close friends, especially the kids. After last year's all-nighter, I was happy to be baking for a smaller group, all of whom are people we're really close to and whom D has grown to know and love over the past 2 years. I was going to enjoy this, which was going to be especially easy given that I haven't baked as much as I'd like to in a while.

I baked rainbows. Rainbow cupcakes. Rainbow chocolate chip cookies. Rainbow sugar cookies. It was very colourful and very happy, and it made D happy to both see and eat them...which makes me happy.

My sister's pic of some of the goods. More pics to come.

Being grateful - 20120315

I am grateful for walking into something new.

My lunch break was spent venturing to the new Bulk Barn a bit east of where my office building is. I was looking for specific cupcake liners and was hoping to find them there (I didn't). So, with that being a bust, I thought that with it being such a nice day, I'd walk around and found myself at the Loblaws at Maple Leaf Gardens.

My goodness, if people lived in grocery stores, I'd wanna live there.

The place is massive, clean, organized and has a food-ready-to-serve area that takes up a third of the store or something. Amazing. I ended up mixing a bunch of different salads and veggies and paying less than $5 for my lunch (part 2).

You totally need to go there.

Being grateful - 20120314

I am grateful for work opportunities.

Today is the 1 year anniversary of the first day I went back to work after mat leave and also, my first day at my current job. My boss sent me the first email of the day congratulating me on a job well done in my first year here and thanking me for all that I've done for our team. I truly believe that me getting this job is one of the biggest blessings I've ever been given. With the efforts I've made in my life towards the cure for cancer, this job has made it part of my every day, and every day, when I leave the office, however hard or easy my day was, I know I've helped forward the cause. That's one big thing our CEO emphasizes to everyone in this organization--that all of us are integral in the search for a cure (read more about him in the most recent issue of Canadian Running magazine!).

I actually applied for this job in January of 2011. I applied for a lot of jobs in January of 2011. I went in for an interview a few weeks after I applied and felt really good about it. I knew I really wanted this job because of all the things I would learn, all the things I would get to do and truly felt that all the experience I had gained could really be put to use. Mr.S and I prayed for this opportunity to become part of our lives, but also prayed, even as badly as we wanted it for me, that if it wasn't for me and someone else needed the opportunity more, give it to them. It was a hard prayer to pray, but we just thought it was such a good fit for me that if I didn't get the job, we needed to accept it and not let it interfere with my job search.

I was really in search of another job. My old job was a good one too, with great people, but I just didn't feel fulfilled at the end of the day, didn't use the knowledge I gained in university, nor did I feel like I had much room to grow. I wanted something that would let me commit me to a 9-5 (or 8-4) and no more. I wanted something that didn't require me to travel. I wanted something that I didn't have to think about when I left the office. I wanted something easy. As a new mother, I had other things I wanted on my mind and consuming my time and work was not and is not one of them. I knew this would likely mean a lower position than my last one, but I was okay with it, as long as we didn't suffer financially, and well, I like growing in organizations.

A few weeks after the interview, I got an email from the director saying that I didn't get the job, but I was their second choice, and that she had suggested me for a similar position that would be opening in the coming months, with another team. She was asking my permission to forward my CV to them and I eagerly agreed. It wasn't the team I was originally hoping to work with though, but I'd take it.

After that, I got a few more calls for interviews, some for jobs I applied to and didn't really know why, so I didn't interview, and some I interviewed for. None of them interested me as much as the one I applied for originally. I even got offered a job, without an interview, with one of the organizations I did my first fundraiser for, but because it was a temporary position, I turned it down. What we needed was stability.

Then, a few weeks later, in late February, just when things were starting to get a little scary because my maternity leave was about to end and I wasn't sure of my job situation (my old job was there, as were flexible variations of it, but I wasn't keen on taking it back), I got a call. It was one of the people I interviewed with saying that the candidate they had chosen couldn't stay and with me being their second choice, they were wondering if I was still interested in the position. My heart felt like it was drained of all blood. Um, let me think...HELLSYEAH!

A few days later, I went in to meet the director (who suggested me for that other position that still hadn't been posted for at the time) and what was supposed to be like a second interview, ended up being one of the best conversations I've ever had. Really, she just wanted to get to know me. We ended up sharing experiences of grueling long distance physical feats -- me and marathons, she and Rides to Conquer Cancer. She encouraged me to give it a try one year if I was up to it, and when I said the same to her with marathons, she laughed and told me about her hatred of running. Fair enough! We also ended up talking about our common experiences losing our mothers to leukemia, me at 5, she in her 40s. It was a conversation that, I think, almost brought both of us to tears, and I don't know about her, but it felt like we started out as strangers and left, not only as employee and boss, but as friends.

This job was proving promising already.

When I officially started, I loved it right away. The people were great, the job was great, and the fulfillment was amazing. It also helped that the team was instantly loving the way I was doing things and shared their feelings about how they didn't feel the first hire was a good fit for the team. I was learning so much right away, much of it the nitty gritty behind the cause, the efforts going into not just finding a cure, but improving the quality of the existing system, efforts to make the experience for cancer patients as pleasant as possible. There was so much hard work being done, and so much of it isn't seen. I was, and am, working for an organization whose sole purpose is to make things better for those affected by cancer in Ontario, advising the government on how best to do it.

In the year I've been here, I've met so many people, worked with so many varieties of people with a variety of levels of education and made so many friends. Although my director left after a few months of working together, we still keep in touch and she comes by once in a while. One of my team members went on maternity leave, another went back to school to finish her last year of university and the last of the original team I started with, the one who called me to offer me this job, is moving to another team within the organization and we share our last day on the 30th.

I am so grateful for the past year and this job.

Body changes

If you've ever had a baby and were seeing an OB on the journey, you know that they weigh you at every visit. I'm at one visit every two weeks now, and after my next visit, every week after that til the Baby comes. So, for the past few weeks, I've been able to track how much I gain in 2 weeks.

Every time I go for my appointment and it's time for the weigh-in, it's like a show. The receptionist who weighs me always gets a good laugh at how low she has to tip the scale, and I laugh along with her, because I'm the only pregnant patient my doctor has had for whom she has written down a two-digit weight. When my doctor checks my file, we talk sarcastically about how I need to watch myself and take control of my horrendous weight gain.

Yesterday, it was confirmed that I weigh the same thing I did at the end of my last pregnancy. So this means from here on out, I'm going to be the heaviest I've ever been.

I weigh 110lbs right now.

Now, before your jaw falls off your head at how heavy I really am (HAHAHAHA...this is me being sarcastic, BTW), I want to explain that this 110lbs is doing a number on my body. My legs hurt, people! Also, I'd like to remind you that I'm only 4'7.5" and if I wasn't pregnant and this was my weight, I'd be considered overweight, according to my BMI (Body Mass Index...look it up and look up yours if you don't know what I'm talking about).

Also, all this weight gain means heavier baby, and heavier baby means bigger baby (although we're at the point where the baby isn't getting longer, he's now filling in), and bigger baby means bigger belly, and bigger belly means... ... ...

STRETCH MARKS.

I didn't get them with D-nut, but this time around, I've got them and it is taking a lot out of me to be okay with them. I only found them on Sunday and yesterday I found more. And this is all after telling my sister and friend that I didn't think I had any :(

Oh well, Mr.S and I have decided to call them "The Battle Scars" of this pregnancy. Sounds epic, right? It just goes to show that I have physical proof that this pregnancy has been the most challenging thing my body has ever had to take on...and remember, I'm a marathon runner. They're the marks that show that my body is surviving this and doing what it needs to do to make sure this baby gets here safely and soundly.

That doesn't mean I love them though. I was Googling "Bio Oil" last night to find out how to get rid of these things once my body stops stretching!! Until then, I'm rubbing my stick of cocoa butter on my belly until that thing is finished.

Being grateful - 20130313

I am grateful for finally falling asleep.

The time change has done a number on D. He has, not only been wired for an extra hour, but for longer than that too. Putting him to sleep the past few days has been a quite a task, and I've even found myself dozing off before him, only to wake up to his "Momma! WAKE UP!"

Well, tonight, he actually fell asleep after a little bit less of a shuffle. He was bouncing around, tossing, turning, playing in the dark for a while and then all of a sudden, SILENCE. I gave it a minute and then looked over and there he was, sleeping soundly, like he had a sleep switch that was flipped on all of a sudden.

PHEW.

Thinking about this...

...and wondering if I can find out some more about it at work. Hmmmm....

Scientists Cure Cancer, But No One Takes Notice

Being grateful - 20120312

I am grateful for cuteness.

After showing D-nut the video of himself thanking everyone for wishing him happy birthday, we ended up watching other videos we had of him, all the way back to one when he was just about 2 months old that I sent to my sister and family who live in the US. We sat there for 2 minutes, Mr.S and I trying our hardest not to cry nor pinch the monitor because of how cute and tiny he was. With the laptop on the bed, D-nut heard us and all our, "OMG, he's so small!" "Oh, he's so cute!" and kept pointing at the screen saying, "Baby! Look at the baby!" When we told him that it was actually him, he giggled and then started doing this thing.

I wish I took a picture.


He sat beside the laptop, with his arm resting along the top like it was his buddy, and just smiled at us, looking at the monitor, then at us, then at the monitor, then at us, with an expression that said, "Hey guys, see that cutie over on the monitor here? That's me. And guess what? I'm still cute."

After practically falling off the bed from laughing at him, he laughed too, and then said,

"Funny D! Silly Billy!"

Being grateful - 20120311

I am grateful for successful errand running and ice cream.

Mr.S and I (and D-nut too) were on a mission today to get as much stuff done as possible for D's party on Saturday. With the way I've been feeling and Mr.S having a bunch of stuff on his plate, we weren't able to get on this as early as we would have liked, but we made up for it today. We were all GO GO GO! And then DONE! DONE! DONE! As with all successful things we accomplish together, we crossed things off our to do list with high fives and treated ourselves to some ice cream on what was an amazing spring-in-winter day.

Being grateful - 20120310

I am grateful for good food days and good company.

Don't you love days where everything you eat is really good? We had one of those days today.

We met up with the BGF+s for lunch today (missed Mr.H though) for some good Hakka food. It's actually been a while since we got together, with our crazy schedules for the past month, but we managed to do it. So much catching up in that month and so little time. Luckily we're seeing each other at least once for the next 2 weeks. Hahaha! We just can't get enough of each other, it seems! :) It was just really nice to be able to chat, watch them play with D-nut (they brought balloons! He loves balloons!), and just be in their company again. All over some spicy, some mild food and lots of water (because I'm not the only "wimp" in the group haha).

Then we celebrated one of my brothers' birthdays and well, that whole thing was delicious. It's so nice to see the friendships my family has made and how they've gotten stronger and grown over the years, especially having grown up with some of these people myself since I was a kid when many of these friendships started. The menu was complete with dishes that are my brother's types of foods, and that included Jamaican, Japanese and Thai cuisine. Yum. My stomach is wishing for more right now.

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Bellywatch 2012 - 33 weeks

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Being grateful - 20120309

I am grateful for the joy of our biggest little boy.

D-nut turned 2 today. All day, flashes of what I was doing 2 years ago today went through my mind. My memory is horrible, but days like that are so vivid in my head. It's great. It's also great that the mind erases any memory of pain I went through that day and holds onto all the little treasures and blessings we were given that day.

Like all birthdays, we started the day off singing Happy Birthday to him when he woke up. He looked so surprised when we said his name, like he had no idea it was his birthday (he probably didn't). And as with all birthdays, we stayed in bed to open some presents. His first was a gift from his unborn brother, all the parts individually wrapped so that he could get excited with each one...and he did! You could give this boy coal wrapped in paper and he'd love it.

As the birthday boy requested, we had Mr.S' pancakes, along with some bacon and plenty of fruit. That boy loves his father's pancakes. Mr.S makes cute ones just for him. Sometimes he eats them with his hands, but today, he tried tackling them with a fork after we cut them up into smaller pieces. He's such a big boy, eating all by himself for the past few months. He's getting neater and neater with his eating too, which helps us with the cleaning after meals.

We spent the day at Fantasy Fair, continuing our journey there from Family Day and found it to be MUCH less crowded, with almost no lines for anything. D-nut was so happy to be going on the train multiple times and even got his "CHOO CHOO!!!!!" perfected, complete with hand motion. He also ended up bored of the carousel, which was fine with me because I couldn't go on it with him (the horses are just too high! Haha!). We took a break for lunch and went back.

The evening was spent with family, some of whom aren't able to make it to his party. He enjoyed their company and playing with his cousin, as well as opening his gifts...if you ever need someone to open some of yours, he's the boy to call.

Happy birthday D-Nutty!!


Being grateful - 20120308

I am grateful for social media and collective efforts.

Kony2012. Maybe that's all I have to write because you already know what I'm talking about.

Today, the campaign was launched and well, it took the world by storm. Many supporters, but also many critics, which is to be expected because well, not everybody supports everything. No plan is flawless and they're not claiming to be perfect. But in my mind, I've been wanting to know what it is that I can do to help this problem, and this came as an answer to me. I know that there are many similar efforts out there to stop these things from happening in various places in Africa, but this one was the one that yelled out to me, as I'm sure it did for many others. I did my research though, and read up on both sides of the campaign and decided that this was something I could take part in. It's not the answer and won't solve the problem completely nor indefinitely, but it's a start, and everything needs a start. Yesterday, I didn't know who Kony was and today I do. And since I know who he is and more about what's happening, I can't sit around and ignore it. I've become part of the movement and I've become part of the beginning of what, I'm sure, will be a long journey.

Watch this.

Become part of the solution. www.kony2012.com


Update: With the criticism of the campaign, Invisible Children came out with this response. Please read.

Being grateful - 20120307

I am grateful for beautiful weather and cooling off.

I had a run-in with our IT department today. (How many people have said that before? You? And you and you and you? Thought so.) Two run-ins actually. With the same guy. Over the same issue. He better thank his lucky stars that this was over Communicator and not the phone or in person. I was so frustrated, I was beyond being nice. I know, that's bad. But really, if you're there to help me, you should listen to what I'm saying so that I'm not repeating myself 20 times and you should listen to what you're saying so that you don't come up with 20 different responses every time I repeat myself. Sorry, I'm getting worked up just talking about it.

So, after I finally got what I think is a pretty sane response and solution, I said thanks and took off outside, as I was hoping to find time for, to read for an hour (I had lunch at my desk dealing with this issue, it took that long). And what a beautiful day. First of many for this late winter, so I hear. And after that, I was cool as a cucumber. :)


At a point

I'm in week 34. 4 weeks left until this little guy is ripe for the picking. 6 more weeks until this little guy is due. 6 more weeks + 1 day until I'm overdue. Which I hopefully won't reach.

I'm uncomfortable and moody. My pelvis feels like it's going to explode. My leg feels like it's gonna fall off. My back is begging me for mercy. My feet are somebody else's. My wedding band is calling home thinking it's lost around a chain on my neck because my ring finger, along with the rest of my fingers, is swollen. My skin feels like it's gonna tear layer by layer.

I'm complaining.

And I still have at least 4 weeks to go until I'm at full term. Wow.

And believe it or not, I've started getting some of this already...



No regrets

Live life with no regrets. Read this.

Being grateful - 20120306

I am grateful for coordinating meeting times and ice packs.

After several months of trying to meet up, my cousins and I finally found a time to go out for dinner. Things get complicated with different working schedules, kids, husbands, errands, swimming lessons, and all that stuff. But, we managed to get together yesterday. We ate, and ate, and ate then ate some more and talked and talked and talked some more and laughed all throughout. Our faces hurt by the end of the night and I think we were all suffering from impending post-dinner&dessert comas.

As we were walking in the parking lot, I got a call that D-nut had bumped his head, it was swelling and he hadn't stopped crying. I rushed home to find him crying that cry where his breathing is funny, but also found a swollen right eye and a big black bruise underneath it. D, being D, was hyper and spinning himself around, stopped to enjoy the dizziness that followed and ran BAM! Into the coffee table, despite being told to stop it. *SMH* After getting him to calm down, we were able to ice it some more, to lessen the swelling, without him screaming (what is with kids not wanting to ice their booboos?). He went back to talking ("not the ice" was his newest thing) and being his funny self, despite his recent injury. He's learned a new word. "Shiner".

I should also add that I'm thankful for the resilience of children.

Being grateful - 20120305

I am grateful for cold glasses of water.

Mr.S' old family friend who moved to California is in town to visit for a few days. We, along with Mr.S' cousins, went out with him for dinner for Hakka food. I love Hakka food. Spicy as it is, I love it. I don't care about the consequences...usually. We ended up ordering almost everything spicy, except the steamed rice, which I ate a lot of. Because I'm a wimp, my glass of water was almost always in need of a refill, and Kenen (i.e. Mr.S' cousin/one of my best friends -- not her actual name, FYI) was kind enough to refill it for me when I was too shy to get up and refill it myself with one of the pitchers of water at a nearby table (we couldn't get the attention of the wait staff). Oh my mouth was on fire, but it tasted so goooooood.

And then I thought I was gonna end up in premature labour. I had Braxton Hicks contractions for the remainder of the night, in addition to gas, and awesome (as in, you look and you'll be in AWE) swollen feet, which, luckily have been the only things really swelling lately...oh and my fingers too (wedding band now worn as Frodo wore the One ring...on a chain around my neck!). I drank lots and lots more water when we got home, which means lots and lots of getting up to pee in the middle of the night.

Being grateful - 20120304

I am grateful for comfort.

As you know, today is my Mom's 24th anniversary of her death. It feels different for me this year, more, well, difficult than usual, if you can imagine that. But, the hugs, kisses, and conversations shared are much comfort to me today.

24 years

I haven't seen my Mom in 24 years. At least not in the flesh. If your Mom is still around, give her a hug today, maybe talk to her about something in your life that you want only her thoughts on. Just listen to what she has to say. Maybe say sorry for something you did or maybe hear her out on something she has wanted to share with you.

That's what I'm trying to do today. The hard part is listening because it's not my ears that I have to use. I close my eyes and she's right here with me, while I'm up and the boys are asleep, all 3 of them. I feel her in my mind, in my blood, in the love I have for my family and friends and mostly in my heart. Though my memory of her often feels as though she's a fictional character in a story I wrote and am still writing, I know that she's real and that she's here. The pain in my chest has left me with an open wound that's 24 years old now and I've been working for that long to close it up, working with my siblings who share the same wound, with my husband, my sons, my family and, of course, God. Every so often I get close to closing it up, but there are times when it opens up again, sometimes bigger than the last time. It's strange because many of those times are the times when I need her most, when I could really use her presence and struggle to find her. But those are the moments she's closest and in all my frustration, worry and doubt, I'm too blind to see and too deaf to hear.  She is right there waiting for me to feel her and to remember that though she's not physically beside me, she's still here for me as my mother. That, never changed.

And so lately, in my silent talks with her that resemble prayers more closely than they do conversation, she says the the same things to me:

Be patient
Have faith
Be open
Be strong
Remember
Be grateful

These are often the same things she says to me every time, and because I get so easily distracted, I forget.

But today isn't all sad. Every year today, we all get together and remember her and celebrate her life. Though it often feels like a loss, it is also a huge gain. Not many people's mothers are angels in heaven too.

Being grateful - 20120303

I am grateful for ultrasound technology.

With my "gestational diabetes"*, Mr.S and I went to the hospital for a biophysical profile, which basically assesses, via ultrasound, the size of the baby, and other measurements, just to make sure the baby isn't mammoth-sized or anything crazy like that, which can often  happens with babies born to mothers with gestational diabetes mellitus (GDM). It was a quick appointment (yay to paying the minimum for parking at the hospital!) and everything was fine. Apparently I'm having an average-sized baby. What that means, I'm not entirely sure, but I'm sure average here is smaller than average in say, China where you hear about 19-pound babies and such. I think around now, week 33-34, average is around 5 pounds. D-nut was just under 6 pounds, so we're likely looking at a baby who'll probably be a bit over that.

*I never updated -- so I've sorta been "kicked out" of the GDM program because my blood-sugar levels have been fine and so I haven't had to do as much testing, and no more meetings with endocrinologists, dieticians and nurses!

Being grateful - 20120302

I am grateful for quick recoveries and impromptu lunches.

I'm a little late, but my niece had her appendix removed a few days ago. She's one of the happy-go-luckiest girls I've ever met, so I had no doubt that she'd recover quickly, but I'm just so grateful for her temperament - so refreshing. I'm sure that helps with recovering quickly from surgery and well, from anything. She's already at home now too. Such a trooper.

Also, I met up with Mr.S for lunch today. Both clueless about what non-meat option to have for lunch, we met up for Japanese. Yum.

Being grateful - 20120301

I am grateful for bed and help from my Mother-In-Law (MIL).

Yesterday's acrobatics in the bathroom left me immobile today. In addition to my waddling, I adopted walking like an old lady to my strut. I must look like a pregnant disaster. There was no way I was going to work today, and if the thought of going entered my mind, my leg would not have it. So, I stayed home today.

Staying home doesn't have the same feeling of relaxation as it used to, since I have an almost-2-year-old (wah!) to look after, but my MIL was, as usual, a total help today. Luckily D was pretty low maintenance today, but she was always there to help whether it was to lift him into his high chair or grab something I couldn't reach. Sometimes I wonder what sorts of good things I did to get a MIL like her. Seriously, the most easy-going woman I know.

I was able to also take a long nap with D in bed this afternoon, which was nice and gave my legs some much-needed rest. By the end of the day, I'm pretty mobile, just sore.